We've heard enough women crib about the demands made on matrimonial sites. Every man wants a fair/tall/slim/homely/well educated/ well mannered/long haired/should know to cook/religious girl. Some make a few extra demands like she should be open minded, vegetarian/non vegetarian, have logical thinking, tech savy etc. In addition, if the woman earned well then she'd be the perfect trophy wife. To the young bridegroom and his mother these were not demands, but the prerequisites for a woman to be a good daughter-in-law and wife. The parents of dark fat girls made sure they'd pack them off with enough dowry to compensate on the tall and slim factor.
Before the wedding, every girl made sure she gymmed hard enough, so that her collar bone would show up and applied enough Benozyl peroxide all over her body to resemble the snow white her future husband was dreaming of. In some cases the girl also pierced her nose, a symbolic act in Hindu culture which ensures that the husband lives a long life. The girls never had any demands. The only demand their parents had was that the groom should be well educated and must have a good earning. Although this was a demand they often had to compensate for it in turn, by organizing a lavish wedding/ dowry/ adorning their daughter with jewels. In most cases all of the above mentioned was done.
Today, many women earn if not more, equal to their husbands. They are ready to satisfy the demands of tall/slim/fair. They too have demands. A colleague of mine, who is a tall slim, fair skinned, good looking and well earning woman is a prospective bride. She has the following demands from her man. I wish shaadi.com would help me list at least a few of these on their site.
So here are few of her demands:
1. The guy should be a lefty, so that his brain works right.
2. He must read, write, and speak 2 foreign languages fluently.
3. He must play at least 2 sports (one indoor game and one out door game). Preferably he should a national champion in at least one.
4. He should have silky hair.
5. He must have well aligned white teeth.
6. He should be 6 feet tall. 5ft 11'' is adjustable.
7. He should know to cook.
8. He must play the guitar.
9. No big belly. A six pack would be good. An 8 pack would be great.
10. He shouldn't wear VIP, Rupa or Tantex undewear. ( Cummon we spend so much on lingere. Cant they afford atleast jockey)
The tables have turned, here comes the era of the bride.
16 comments:
fine i will comment... hmmmpf!
Nice ppost.. and why do men need silky hair?!?! just a koshtin.. probably coz i don like men wit long hair...
i am all for female sexuality and women empowerment sis... but this is going overboard... unless we are talking abt a megan fox here...
hahaha i;m sorry but i cant help laughing
A guy like that wont even have to list himself on shaadi.com or any other site to get a bride.
This (http://www.laddertheory.com/attractiondeconstruct.htm) is a more realistic take on male-female attraction dynamics.
Very apt one and I wish every girl really demands such qualifications for considering the candidature of the prospective grooms.
@ taikun686
This is post is not about male-female attraction dynamics. You got the entire premise wrong. Lol.
@P Venkataraman
If you actually went through The Ladder Theory you would get what I am saying. Your friend would throw that list into the dustbin and marry a fat stockbroker (who can not play guitar, is not a sports champ, doesn't has abs,doesn't know how to cook, does not have aligned teeth, is not six feet tall etc ) if he was rich enough to compensate for his 'can not's.
Ladder Theory was conceptualized and developed upon in US, where women are far more liberated than in India. The point being, the whole "era of the bride" is a stupid concept. No matter how developed the society gets and no matter how liberated the women are, the concept of attraction (which is what usually leads to marriage) doesn't change. Men want a hot chick to fuck. Women want a powerful(financially/politically/physically/combination of any two/all three) guy to fuck. The rest he-should-be-able-to-be-guitar is just random bullshit which women forget the instant they find a rich enough guy.
doesn't have abs*
he-should-be-able-to-play-a-guitar*
@jibbu, S Rao
Discounting the 'lefty' requirement, an average European guy would, most likely, satisfy all those requirements. The author's thick-witted friend's requirement list is most likely a result of watching too many English movies.
@taikun,
I would quite not agree with your concept of liberation of women. Women abroad are not quite liberated as you assume. Liberation of women depends on the way men perceive women.
It could true that many (not all) Men want a hot chick to fuck. But many women ( especially in India)as far as I have seen don't just want want a powerful( financially/politically/physically)man.
And its quite sad that some people don't recognize marriage beyond the haze of physical intimacy. There's a lot more to marriages. And I do have a point here. :)
@taikun:
The said babe's list of selection criteria seems to arise out of a conflict between the selfish genes preferences and the external influences of media, thus resulting in looking for european attributes in an indian mate. Its quite evident this is gonna drastically reduce her chances of finding a satisfactory mate and probably lead to utter disappointment. But we guys are no less susceptible to being influenced by media as we were responsible for the unhealthy and hideous heroin chic look to be in vogue for sometime.
@P.V.
"And its quite sad that some people don't recognize marriage beyond the haze of physical intimacy." Marriage is a haze and as the dust settles, marriages fall apart. As women get liberalized, or to put in other words start assuming same roles as men, the concept of marriage starts to fail. More developed the country, more the divorce rate. It has been shown that there is a strong correlation between the increase in divorces and the growth of an economy. Obviously, correlation does not imply causation. But still it is something to consider.
In a modern society marriage is a flawed and hence failing concept. Ironically, same is the case in less developed societies. Example being, prides. Lions don't hunt, unless they need to. Lionesses do. They take care of the offspring, too. Lions just fuck the lionesses and indulge in power plays with other lions.
Man is biologically not a monogamous animal and so should not even try to be one. Men be like lions! ;)
@jibbu
Susceptible to media? What? Guys are willing to fuck any chick that comes their way and satisfies the minimum standards. The only thing that may create a problem is the said chick's reluctance.
@taikun
I quite pity your shallow understanding of marriages and mankind.
@ Taikun:
Marriage has not lost its sanctity as you say.
@PV
I quite pity your shallow understanding of the grim reality.
@PV's friend
Barrack Obama is harboring Osama-bin-laden and his buddies in the White House.
I hope I managed to beat you in the "Who can put up the most obviously untrue comment?" contest.
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