Singling Out Men and Women

When we sit to think about what made us the person today we are, what would make us the person we want to be tomorrow, there pop up numerous answers. But none of us can dispute the fact that there was a lot of sacrifice that was borne by our very own creators - mom's to make us the person we are today. My grandmother sacrificed a companion to raise three kids all alone, after becoming a widow at quite a youthful age of 32. My mom scarified promotions and perks to make me the person today I am.

The thing that bothers me today is the fact most women have to weigh their profession and work against their family. One of the biggest atrocities most middle class women face, is when they are made to make a choice between her career and family. Not all of them get to enjoy the complete package of goodies: an understanding husband and Great kids and a successful career. We do see real life examples.Jaya Baduri had to do away with her acting after she married Mr.Bachan.She had a perfect family and perfect kids but her career went for a toss. She could have turned out to be the greatest star who might have won most number of national awards if she hadn’t become Mrs. Bachan.It was a choice she made no doubt. But why do women always have to make these choices. All women get the cake but most women never get to eat it.

When you weigh down single men and single women (dumped, divorced, widowed or single by choice) you'd clearly find single women surpass single men on every scale and are a way lot smarter than them. Let’s compare two of our very able single politicians too.Jayalalitha and Atal Behari Vajpayee.Don't you find Jaya Amma a way smarter than Mr.Vajpayee?  Be it in career or in raising kids, single women are better at handling both. Women always have clearly defined purposes in life. 

Most single women are single by choice. This does not apply to single men. Why would any man choose to be single??? Most single men either have this huge complex about themselves or suffer from depression which makes them do weird things. So next time you get a random friend request or you receive a sympathetic mail on Orkut or face book you know who's doing it. For men who choose to be single its definitely not a choice. Singleness is forced upon them. 

To the man who quoted the following: "Behind every successful man there is a woman and behind every unsuccessful one there follow two." I want to tell you that you need us more than we need you. Singleness be it forced upon us, or be it by our own choice, WE DON'T CRUMBLE.